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"Entering Planet Earth"
Joys on THE OTHER SIDE OF THE BRIDGE OF RECOVERY wait for you.
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Abuse Victim Profile

"Happy at First"
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"The Perpetrators"
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"Despair"
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"Working the R-E-P-A-I-R Program"
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Abuse Victim Profile

"The Magic Mirror"
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"Crossing the Bridge"
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"Happy At Last"
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Mission Statement


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Mission Statement


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Mission Statement


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Stand Up & Be Counted


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Happy on Your Own


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Welcome to the Lamplighter Movement website

 

Change the face of a
crying child 
from this ……..
                         ….. to this!

Children of an untreated victim of childhood sexual abuse stand a five times greater chance of being abused themselves.

Punch a hole in the darkness!!
Become a Lamplighter, a light in the world of child abuse.
Start a chapter in your area.

The Lamplighter Movement currently has 75 chapters in 10 countries!

We must all stand together so that none must stand alone!

Provide a “home away from home” for other survivors, a safe place where they can tell their story. Support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse incest, domestic violence, rape and sexual assault

My recovery poems have all been compiled into a book called Odyssey, A Spiritual Journey. Please read my newest entry in my Poetry Corner.

http://www.thelamplighters.org/llblog01/my-poetry-corner/


The revised second edition of REPAIR Your Life: A Program for Recovery from Incest & Childhood Sexual Abuse, with a special five star review by Dr. Vincent Felitti of the ACE Study and two new chapters has arrived. Please take a look either on this website or on amazon.com.

Five star review by Dr. Vincent J. Felitti on Repair Your Life


REPAIR Your Life

Rescue the Frightened Child inside of you.

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I Never Heard A Robin Sing

(my memoir with a five star review by Dr. Vincent Felitti is available in Kindle from amazon.com – soon to be out in paperback)

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Frequently asked questions about child sexual abuse

1.  What happens if I have no memory of the abuse but fit most of the characteristics of child sexual abuse?

2.  Is playing doctor at a young age with my siblings and neighbor friends child sexual abuse?

3. What if I am still living with my perpetrator and afraid to leave?

4.  My perpetrator told me it was my fault. How do I deal with that?

5. How do I handle flashbacks and how do I know if they are real?

6.  Friends and family tell me to get over it and put it behind me. I don’t want to but how do I answer them?

7.  I am too ashamed of my incest to join a 12 step group. The thought of telling my story to strangers makes me ill. How do I overcome that?

8.  I still live at home and my family members tell me not to share my story with anyone but some of them are my perpetrators. How can I handle this?

9.  My husband keeps telling me I am a perpetrator when I fight back against his rapes. He said he is my husband and as such is allowed to rape his wife.

10.  My children don’t believe that I experienced incest. They think I made it up and are embarrassed whenever I mention it. I don’t want to upset my children. What should I do?

11. I am trying to work a 12 step program but cannot get past the 4th step, “Make a fearless and moral inventory.” I am too ashamed to talk about what I have done sexually.

12.  How do I stop making so many unhealthy choices and why do I do it?

Answers are on the Child’s Bill of Rights page at: http://www.thelamplighters.org/llblog01/a-childs-bill-of-rights/

Working the Program

My life is but a weaving between my God and me;  I do not choose the colors He worketh steadily. Oftimes He weaveth sorrow and I in foolish pride forget He sees the upper and I the underside. Not till the loom is silent and shuttles cease to fly will God unroll the canvas and explain the reason why. The dark threads are as needful in the skillful weaver’s hand as the threads of gold and silver in the pattern He has planned.

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If you want to be happy change the sail not the wind.

 All illustrations by Tom W. McKinnon