Process

The REPAIR program means nothing, even if you have made it through Recognition and Entry, unless you move through the third stage, Process. My best friend Webster says that process is a series of action or operations conducing to an end. Here is where we hit the details of this program. If you made the major decision that you were overweight and followed that up with the idea that you needed to diet and exercise so that you would look good again, but that is as far as you went, how much weight would you lose? Something not followed through with action is nothing. One of my favorite lines out of the book Repair is “Do that which works, and everything else will fall in line.

So here we go. The book REPAIR Your Life contains many ideas for how to take action; all of them contribute towards your goal. Some you are quite aware of and may have even tried. Utilizing recovery books and CDs for example is a great idea. You can’t read a book just because it screams at you that it will make you well again (unless it’s REPAIR Your Life). When I was in recovery, I read every book I could get my hands on that had to do with recovering from child sexual abuse and domestic violence. I also read a number of books on how to make healthy choices in members of the opposite sex. None of it got me anywhere until I found out about John Bradshaw. I saw a film at a local church about what he was doing. The minute I saw his kind and handsome face on that screen and heard him talking about healing the shame that binds you, I was close to tears. I had found my guru. All of his books are excellent but the one that will help you the most is literally Healing The Shame That Binds You. I went through several of that tape during my recovery. Repetition is the key.

Unfortunately, while I spent a lot of money on other books that I read, only John Bradshaw’s made a difference. I started viewing my recovery as a journey across a bridge, one that was scary to cross. On one side of that bridge contained all of my pain, my shame, my inability to set healthy boundaries, poor self-esteem, my poor choices in men, my obsessive, compulsive behavior patterns, promiscuity, my failed suicide attempts and many other troubling and damaging behavior patterns. On the other side of the bride were all of the joys that I would obtain if I only had the courage to cross that bridge. There lay strong self-esteem, healthy choices, peace, a feeling of being centered and capable, and many others that I had never even hoped to obtain. In between these two would be many challenges as well as keys to how to deal with them. This bridge and your ability to continue imaging it is a vital part of your recovery.

The Magic Mirror is another. It is the most significant of all of your processes. Exercises such as listing unhealthy messages and replacing them with healthy messages, journalizing, working a rigorous Twelve Step Program, tips on boundary setting, creating a family history and even more are all contained within the pages of REPAIR.

This stage of the program not only gives you valuable tools; it is the glue that holds you together as you cross that bridge. It is scary but you can do it. You are not alone. You are never alone. You have REPAIR and all of its wisdom. Get started. Buy a copy of REPAIR Your Life and discover the amazing wells of strength you have inside of you.

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